Do Great Relationships Just Happen? Relationships were a mystery to me when I was growing up. It seemed you were lucky if you met people you “clicked” with as friends or lovers. Although I grew up in Sweden where sexual relationships are as natural as your morning muesli, it’s not like “how to have great sex” was a topic in high school biology. As I grew up, I began to see that there might be more than luck involved. I gradually learned that it’s possible to build personal and sexual chemistry. Contrary to what you see in romantic movies, successful relationships don’t happen by chance. They’re the result of hard work and commitment. Yes, it’s true: Initial attraction is either present or absent. Our first emotional connections with partners seem to happen according to chance. It’s what happens later that we should work on. The emotional and sexual attraction that brings us together at first is just a foundation for a fulfilling, lasting relationship. Love may be unconditi...